The other night I found myself watching an episode of Celebrity Wife Swap. Not just any episode either. It was an episode with couples from The Bachelor. I know. I know. For what it’s worth I was by myself with no access to Netflix or HBO Go. (In the interest of full disclosure, I’m pretty sure I did have a book with me.) Anyway, the reason I’m bringing up this embarrassing fact is because one of the couples shared how they go out for a weekly date night where they explore something new together. It sounded fun, and it got me thinking about date nights again. Or, more honestly, this got me feeling insecure that the marital product of a season of The Bachelor was more competent than us at coordinating a date night. Every week. An original date night, every week. I know. I know. Now I’m comparing. This whole anecdote is just getting worse.
I eventually forgot about reality television and got back to life. Then I saw this video.
On parenthood, marriage and feminism.
Posted by Jonathan Mann on Tuesday, August 11, 2015
Many, many interesting topics of discussion, but once again I got sidetracked with the date night (you have to watch to almost the end to hear the reference).
Unlike our celebrity Bachelorette counterparts, or bloggers I read, or many couple friends of ours, Ben and I do not really date night. Not consistently and not even really sporadically. I understand the premise of a date night. But I guess I feel like do you need to physically leave your home in order to have meaningful time together? Who has the time? Who has the money? Doing something new together sounds amazing, but who has the time and the money and the energy and the creativity to do something new every week? Also, how many new things can one city have to do?
I feel all crotchety typing this out, but I’m obviously preoccupied with date nights.
Do you date night?